Queer Eye Revamped is Relevant AF – What You can Learn from the Fab 5
I'll preface this by saying, I freaking loved the first iteration of this show, formerly known as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, now just Queer Eye, cause it's not just straight guys. So I went into to this with major side eye.
In the first ep the Fab 5 introduce themselves as to what their role is on the show – you've got your food and drink, you've got your design, you've got your stylist etc. but to also reaffirm to us that while QEFTSG was about fighting for tolerance, the new QE is fighting for acceptance. like the first show, these guys are dealing with predominantly straight dudes, who have little contact with the LGBTI community, who have been dobbed in by their friends or loved ones, because they could do with a little fabulous in their lives. If you're not already hooked, I don't know who you are.
The reason I wanted to write about QE this week is because in between snorts of laughter and sobbing over heartfelt and heartbreaking moments, ultimately these guys have been called in to help people love themselves more so that they can find love with others, be that a relationship, or simply being more open to their friends and families and that's why I think everyone should watch this.
My most favourite lesson came from my favourite ep of the season, about a policeman named Corey, who was nominated by his policeman friend. Corey is 36, but looks 106, loves his booze and a party, loves his wife and kids but doesn't really love Corey all that much. He gets about in active wear without actually being active, no crime really since this is a lifestyle choice for most melbournites, but he wears that shiz to nice dinners out and also due to the heat in Georgia, will often take the little missus to Walmart on dates because it's to dang hot outside. Really wide eye emoji face here.
Resident 'culture' expert, Karamo, of course it is, gets to the core of Corey as to why he takes a person he loves on such sh*t dates and also why he is a little bit old man in young man body. Corey lost his father a few years back, which has profoundly affected his life but he hasn't had the chance to grieve it fully and he also feels really sad he doesn't suit up more and treat his lady the way she deserves to be treated. Karamo, tells Corey that "love is in the details". to quote Jonathan my spirit animal of the show, YASSS QUEEN!!
I hadn't really analysed it a great deal, but as I continued to watch Karamo and Corey and the rest of the fab 5 do things, I totally started to pick up what they were putting down. It's so easy in relationships to let the things you once cared about or did all the time, slip a little. Nights at home are more frequent, especially if you have kidlets, date nights become few and far between, sweats replace your dresses, specially cooked meals become a treat, it can all get a bit same same.
So when the Fab 5's mantra became 'love is in the detail' for this ep, I totally got it. One thing that I love so much about my own relationship is the time the B&C puts into organising date nights or days, drives, trips away and putting a nice shirt and pant on when we go out, when I know he's dying to wear his thongs and shorts. When Tan, of course it is, the stylist of the Fab 5 gave their new straight a real snazzy new wardrobe and some tickets to a show, he was so pumped to tell his wife they weren't off to Walmart that night, he was chomping at the bit to show off his new duds to her. He was feeling confident and full of swag. Love is totally in the details, even when it's paying attention to your own details, for sure.
The other really great thing that came out of this season was the vulnerability of these men, some had such little confidence and self-worth and didn't believe that they deserved to be happy in their lives. Whether that was them living in squalor or dressing like rednecks, they each had developed a habit in their lives that meant that they fell further and further into a shame spiral of bad fashion and sh*t storms for homes. It was really eye opening for me, how important it is to give people confidence in the way we treat them and also the tools to create confidence.
Now I know that confidence is not spawned from a new outfit and a good haircut, but you have got to admit this stuff helps. How good do you feel coming out of the hairdressers with a fresh cut, or swag out the house in a great killer outfit? a million freaking bucks is how good. Just as important is telling people when they look good, it's one of my favourite phrases in life "if you see something, say something", how often do we see friends, workmates, family and think how great they seem to be doing or how nice they look and just not say anything. Just saying something, can make the world of difference to a person's life and how they go about their day, this is what the Fab 5 try to instill in people. Self-love and sharing it so that the people they are helping can live happy fulfilling lives.
This is pretty deep for what is a essentially a very funny and entertaining show, but it is a show with a really important message. If you were going to let it pass you by on Netflix, don't let it. It's a really great show with a beautiful message in each ep. and even if you can't take the time to notice all the details in love, at least be conscious to the details you can. I will be off now writing petitions for season 2 to be made immediately.