It's the Little Things That Matter the Most
Recently I went to a dear friend's hens night. It was a classy affair, not a peen in sight, just a bunch of lovely girls drinking wine and eating food in the cellar of a fabulous Melbourne venue. It's my kinda night, because I'm old and because I appreciate a lady that keeps things classy, probably why she's my friend.
So we sat down and in front of us were little scrolls , I thought maybe it was a peen colouring in stencil, because things were just too civilised, but halfway through dinner a couple of her closest gal pals announced that we were playing a game, The game involved them having asked the hen's other half a bunch of questions about their relationship and she was to try and guess the answers. We each had a picture of hubby to be with a word / sentence that gave her the answer to the questions.
I know, I am being clunky trying to explain this game but it sets a scene and that's kinda important since you weren't there. There were the normal silly questions like "what fantasy character would you like to see her dressed as" and "fave sexy time positions", they had to smut it up somewhere, being so civilised and all, but the questions that resonated with me and what made me want to write this little post were the question around special moments like best first dates and romantic things he had done for her, that made me warm and fuzzy inside.
These two have known each other for a very long time, they have been on many dates, had many special moments and had many special times together, but what struck me was that the bride to be would answer questions with really special answers, a good example was "what is the most romantic thing he has done?". The hen answered saying when he went on a boys trip and bought her back a beautiful jewellery box. Bloody good answer right? I mean, so delightful that a man would be on a boys weekend away and still think enough about her the whole time that he bought her a gift. But that answer wasn't right. It was something equally as special (by this stage I have had a few glasses of chardy and the exact response escapes me) but the look on her face and her remembering the moment he had given was priceless.
The game went on and there were many moments like this, where she would give a super special answer, only to have another even more special answer be the actual response he had given. I jumped in an uber at the end of the night, buzzed and feeling loved up to the eye balls. It made me think about relationships, whether they are long term, short term or just started, from day one you are creating memories that might last you a life time.
It made me think more about when you find that special person, you should do all you can to make those special memories and to keep surprising people, no matter how comfortable you think you are or how much you think you know each other, there is always room to make someone feel special. It's so important and it's something that really does make that special someone in your life feel great. That was evident in her self-reflection on each of his answers. She had to take a shot every time she got one wrong, so that probably added to the euphoria, but the love in the room was undeniable, as well as wine and shot induced.
I share this with you, because I think in life and in love, we can be so busy worrying about things that at the end of the day don't matter, when we could be spending that time making lasting memories, whether that's with the love of your life, or the loves of your life in your family and friends. I learnt a lot that night about making the people in my life feel special. Especially the old ball and chain. I joke with his friends about his sensitive side, which often causes him great grief at cricket training, not to mention some serious dollars in cricket fines, but gee whizz I am lucky that I have someone who understands this.
So as you head into the weekend, doing things with your loved ones, make it count, make memories that count and that could well be shared at one of your special days.
To the bride to be, I can't wait to spend your special day with you and be part of the chapter to come!